21 Jul

I always find it so curious how the Universe will give us exactly what we need if only we will pause long enough to notice – AND accept – it.

My family is going through a complete and utter shit storm right now from one of the most horribly negative people I have ever encountered in my life – and I have known some pretty rotten people.  In the midst of all of it, the following showed up in my reader today.  This whole stalking ordeal has really had me considering shutting down my online life completely.  Just rolling up the rug and locking the door.

I’ve really been on the fence about it though, because with the exception of this one horrid person and this instance of pure, sociopathic Evil, the whole experience of blogging and social networking has brought so many positives – and positive people – into my life.  So do I let the Evil win?  That seems counter-productive.  I have tried to ignore it all but it just won’t go away.  I’ve blocked it all as much as I can.  But it just won’t stop.  It goes on and on (and on and on and on)…  I can’t stop it.  I have no control over it.  All we can do is document it and try to move on until the next time.

I can, however, control how I react to it – which is the point of the post below.

There will always be evil and setbacks and downfalls.

How we employ our reaction – and allow it to win or lose – is up to us.

Via tiny buddha:

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” -Charles Swindoll

“I can’t wait to leave LA. Seriously, we should consider moving within a year.”

I said this to my boyfriend as we were sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic a few streets away from our apartment, anticipating at least 10 more minutes of chaos. All around us, drivers were weaving in and out of lanes, honking at each other, and, in some cases, hurling swears at each other. Despite just meditating, I felt agitated.

Since we moved here just recently so my boyfriend can pursue film, moving isn’t the smartest option. And truthfully, I don’t want to move. I said it because I felt stuck, and in that moment, professing my desire to leave felt like a proactive alternative to simply sitting with that out-of-control feeling.

Suddenly I realized that this was good practice, because I will feel out of control in far more troubling situations many times in my life. We all will.

We may have to wait to find out if we’ll lose our homes, or our jobs, or our health, or people we love. Or we may lose those things and wonder how we can go on, knowing we’re not sure how things will turn out. We may have to watch people we love struggling, knowing we have no clue how to help, or if we even can.

It’s inevitable that we’ll feel out of control in life, over and over again. The good news is that we can always control how we respond to our circumstances, and we can practice this skill a little every day if we’re willing to breathe through uncomfortable feelings.

Today if you find yourself scrambling for control–over your time, your circumstances, or the outcome of your efforts–take a deep breath. Then remember: It’s far more productive to learn through this moment than it is to resist it.

Buddha Statue, Tokyo National Museum

Photo by fakelvis


3 Responses to “Wisdom”

  1. jotter girl July 21, 2011 at 3:36 pm #

    Amen. I wish I had read this post earlier today when I was crazy mad at my boys over their bickering. So true. thanks for posting.

  2. Mynx July 21, 2011 at 8:02 pm #

    I have being saying for a long time the universe provides us with what we need even if we dont always realise it at the time.
    This is such true advice, especially the “breathe”.
    Too many times I have just said nothing, done nothing, until the upset has threatened to wipe me out.

    If nothing else at the moment, let the positve energy from your online friends give you strength. A lot of us care for you and your family even if we have never actually met in person.
    Keep breathing and stay strong. Dont let evil win.
    Love you my friend

  3. lolamouse July 22, 2011 at 9:08 am #

    I’m with Mynx. As long as you’re in no physical jeopardy by posting, don’t hide because of one person’s venom. And remember, the opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.

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